Aging … What Should You Let Go?
Like so many things in life, it is best to let go of old thoughts and ideas that are holding you back from being your best version of yourself. Many women, especially those over 60, still carry outdated beliefs that were ingrained in them from earlier generations. These ideas don’t reflect today’s more empowered view of aging, but they still linger in subtle and not-so-subtle ways.
There's a long-held idea that aging bodies should be hidden—whether it’s upper arms, varicose veins, or sagging skin. This leads many women to avoid sleeveless tops, shorts, swimsuits, or form-fitting clothing. But this comes from shame, not style. Those of you who have followed me for any length of time already know what I think of that idea!!
What bothers you about having wrinkled skin? Is it really the wrinkled skin that is bothering you, or is it the fact that it’s a symbol of the fact that you are no longer as young as you once were? There is really no other reason to worry about wrinkled skin. Does it make you any less healthy, intelligent, kind, or loving? Does it keep you from achieving your goals and doing the things you want to do? Of course not—it is just cosmetic.
Some women stop exploring style and fashion after a certain age because they believe it’s no longer “appropriate” or worth the effort. In reality, personal style can evolve and even become more fun and expressive with age.
There’s a toxic cultural message that sexuality and desirability expire with youth. Many women internalize the belief that after menopause, they should stop expressing sensuality—whether in how they dress, speak, or carry themselves. But this is one of the most empowering myths to challenge.
What does “act your age” even mean? This phrase has kept women from dancing, laughing loudly, trying new things, or even making bold career or lifestyle changes later in life. But age should expand possibilities, not restrict them.
Many women feel like they’ve missed the boat on learning a skill, starting a business, getting fit, or even falling in love again. That belief keeps them stuck—but it’s just a story. There’s no deadline for growth, creativity, or joy.
These are the things that you should let go. Let go of these outdated notions because they were never about empowerment—they were about control. These beliefs were designed to shrink women’s presence, limit their joy, and tie their worth to how well they could meet someone else’s standards. When women own their age unapologetically, they redefine aging for the generations coming after them.